“Relationships”. It’s probably the most discussed topic in the entire world, don’t you think? One of the few most important things we’ve learnt in this domain is that it’s never a good idea to step from one relationship into another. Here’s why.
1. Wrong reason
“A rebound is someone who you date/go out with to keep yourself busy and you use him/her to keep your mind off your ex who you still have feelings for.” That’s what Google says about it. Stepping from one relationship into another is easily done for the wrong reasons, even if you don’t like to admit it at the spot. You might find us old fashioned, but we’re both of the opinion that you shouldn’t engage in a relationship with someone unless you really can imagine yourself spending the rest of your lives with them. Otherwise, what’s the point? Rebounding is naturally a bad idea because you’re trying to distract yourself from what you really feel. Allow yourself some time to settle back into life on your own.
2. Self development
When you’re in a relationship, you’ll naturally try to adapt yourself to a way that suits the other. By being on your own, you give yourself the time and opportunity to learn who YOU are. Might sound cheesy, but there’s nothing more true. Discover what you love, what you stand for and what interests you without worrying what someone else thinks. When you’ve got ‘your own shit together’, being in a relationship is much more fulfilling for both parties involved.
3. Life is long!
In previous times, us humans would rarely get older than 40. That means the time spend married is somewhat bearable (lol). This day and age we only become older! It’s not even so rare anymore to find people at age 100. h-u-n-d-r-e-d. Just take a moment to let that sink in. Look at it this way: if you spend the first 30 years on your own, you still have about 50 years on average to spend with someone else.
4. Being alone isn’t bad
Why is it that we’re convinced being on our own is a bad thing? Sure, it’s not easy at times. You might feel empty or lonely. But getting into a relationship ‘just for the sake’ isn’t going to take that feeling away! What you do have to do instead? Focus your attention on other things. Go on adventure. Invest more time in your friends and family. Socialize. With so many people around us in the world, feeling alone should be impossible. We just need to open up more to one another. You have nothing to lose.
5. It’s not healthy
Last but not least, you should not be hopping from one relationsihp to another simply because it’s not healthy. Some things take time to heal. Your mind, spirit, self-worth. Relationship hopping is often done to dull out emotions that really matter. Any tool that helps us dull out what we really feel, is a bad decision. Whether that’s alchohol, relationships or any other unhealthy pattern. Don’t forget: you can’t lie to yourself, even if you like to sometimes.
Don’t get it wrong: if you’re happy hopping from one relationship to another, go you. Just do yourself the favour of asking yourself why you do what you do and if it’s really what you want.